When it comes to thinking about relationships, you might immediately think of your relationship to your parents, your partner, your friends or your children.
But you also have a relationship with yourself.
If it’s not a healthy relationship based on a foundation of love, chances are high that you will find yourself deeply unhappy in multiple areas of your life.
So grab a piece of paper and a pen (or just count up your answers on your fingers 😉) and take my quiz to see how you're doing with self-love.
Give yourself one point for each one your resonate with:
1: You Think Mean Thoughts about Yourself
Everyone has the occasional off day where they have passing negative thoughts.
But if you're stuck in a never-ending cycle of negative thoughts or being plain mean to yourself, you're not practicing self-love.
Instead, you're basically building a highway of negativity in your brain and every time you have those thoughts, you're paving the way for more negativity.
2: You Compare Yourself to Others
You know when you're strolling down the street and you spot someone and think "Wow, they're way more attractive/smarter/more put together than me" and suddenly you find yourself feeling all kinds of sad?
Yeah, that's part of the self-love struggle, my friends.
But don't worry, you're not alone, we've all been there.
It's when this becomes the norm that it becomes problematic.
3: You Don’t Stand Up for Yourself
Let's be real, when you don't love yourself it can be like you're a human doormat.
You just let people walk all over you.
Like that co-worker who totally lied to you but you didn't say a peep.
Or that 'friend' who borrows money and never pays it back?
Or what about that relative who talks behind your back.
When you love yourself, you rise to your own defense. You’re not afraid to speak up or put up boundaries that protect you.
4: You Don’t Get Enough Sleep
You might be wondering what getting enough sleep has to do with self-love.
But if you’re always pushing yourself to edge of exhaustion and you don’t let yourself rest, pause to ask why.
Do you think you have to be worthy of it? Are you trying to “earn” the right to get enough sleep?
5: You’re Not Taking Time to Relax
You don’t have to devote hours of your day to be meditation master or a yoga guru, but do consider how often you give yourself permission to relax.
When was the last time you left empty space on your calendar just for you?
How often do you get home from work only to start on another list of tasks?
If you struggle to love yourself, you might be tempted to believe you’re worthy of love only if you’re doing something.
6: You Don’t Forgive Yourself
You laid awake last night remembering the silly thing you said to cashier.You thought it was a joke, but she didn’t laugh.
You forgot your co-worker’s husband’s name at the party last week.Now you’re thinking that you’re so stupid.
It’s normal to feel embarrassed or stupid from time to time.
But if you’re always replaying all of the ways you messed up, you might struggle with self-forgiveness.
When you’re in a relationship with someone you love, forgiveness must be a natural part of it.
Forgiveness should be like a river between you, allowing love and compassion to flow freely. But if you don’t love yourself, you might struggle with forgiving yourself.
7: You Let Others Dictate Your Choices
You’re always worried about what others think.
You can’t seem to make a decision unless you’ve checked in with your spouse, best friend, co-workers, in-laws, and a host of other people.
Constantly seeking the approval and validation from others for your life choices is often a loud warning sign that you don’t love yourself.
You already know what you need and want. You must trust that your loving heart is guiding you on the best path.
8: You Never Treat Yourself
When you love someone, you want to do nice things for them.
Maybe you always give your partner a massage after a hard day at work or you put little notes in your child’s backpack.
Perhaps you always pick up the phone to listen to a friend when she calls you, or you don’t hesitate to step in and help a co-worker who’s running behind on a deadline.
But ask yourself when was the last time you did something nice for yourself.
Do you ever simply treat yourself to something lovely for no reason?
If you don’t remember, start thinking about nice things for yourself that you would like.
It doesn’t matter what the activity is. All that matters is it feels good to you.
You’re worth taking care of too and you deserve to be pampered.
Now tally up how many you checked off ✅
How'd you do?
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with love & gratitude,
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